Let’s talk about Love ….

I was traveling with the radio on and day. (Music is definitely one of my love languages – which is where my heart led me as I listened with a different set of ears to a new meaning of this song). Foreigner began singing “I’ve gotta take a little time, time to think things over“. (open link after reading blog; think about the song in reflection of what I’ve mentioned. I’d LOVE to hear your response! (side note: 93Million+ views of this song -crazy)!

As many times as I have listened to this song, that day I heard it as if the Holy Spirit was talking to me. Line by line in this song. My heart began to sing. Then resonated through my voice, in the car (alone – thankfully! :-)).

Sweet bird, taking time to stop. ©Photos By Design 2020

The idea that Foreigner sang the song, reminded me that we are indeed, foreigners in this land/on this earth. This is NOT our destination. Romans 12 tells us that we aren’t to be conformed to this world but to renew our mind to what God tells us on how to live. Like the sweet bird perched on the porch, relaxed, only for a moment, I imagine she was ready to recalculate what her next flight might be.

We too can pause. Reflect. Change. Recalculate our life. What does love mean? Who is God, and what is he doing in me right now?

This world, it is not our destination. It’s temporary. In the midst of a cray cray whirlwind of hostility, new virus, shut downs, loss of jobs, people in hospitals alone, funerals wrapped up tighter than a drum- that we can’t say our final farewell to the people we care about, and SO much more. I am GLAD this world is not the only thing to live for.

Does that twist your emotions? Put a zing in your brain?

Think about it. We are not guaranteed a long life. My husband was 37 when he suddenly died. I know many who died in their 50’s. Our destination needs some planning. some thought. Is heaven yours? It could be. Keep reading.

Getting back to the song. Thinking things over. He says I better think things over. Read between the lines.

I say …..no! Read the Scriptures (I’ll attach links to some appropriate scriptures in this story). When we read the Bible we have so so so soooooo much that God tells us. ALL things pertaining to the crazy world – and God offers instruction for ALL OF IT.

This mountain, I must climb“. (maybe this reminds you of The Sound of Music – climb every mountain… ?? Okay.. getting back on track! lol. But God says, lay down in green pastures. Even though we do have mountain tops to climb, we know that the valley is just over that difficult time. Rest. It’s imperative .

“It feels like the world is on my shoulders“. Phew. How many times have I carried that weight. But no more. I learned years ago… I can’t fix all things. You can’t either. We can do our best to help, guide, teach and share. Then we pray. Let God and the Holy Spirit do the WORK and carry whatever weight you bear. Let it go. Let God do the hard thing.

Love shines. Yes it does. Don’t you feel so much better, brighter and valued when people you love are around? God’s the same. Even better! His love never fails. “I want you to show me”. Oh, listening to this lyric, I changed it to: LORD, I WANT YOU TO SHOW ME. Show me YOUR Love Lord. The perfect love that casts out fear, pain, hurt and negative doubt.

Oh, there is nothing that can hide God’s love from us. Allow him to show you HIS pure amazing wonderful love. It gets rid of all things unhappy. ALL THINGS. Simply TRUST and BELIEVE!

We all want to know what love is. God is the only way. He is true and never leaves us. Even to those who seem to be unlovable… he loves them WAY BIG !!!

I’ve traveled so far to change this lonely life“…. do you ever feel that way? Oh, each verse in this song is like the Bible – precept upon precept… line upon line. Filled with HOPE that God gives. Truth. Light. Freedom. Say YES YES YES!!!!

“I want to know what Love is… I want YOU Lord to show me. It may take a little time.. but there’s nowhere left to hide. Love has finally found me“.

If you are reading this today, please know, God loves you so much. He searches for you, and patiently waits for you to run to HIM. Offer your life to him. Ask him to live in you. Ask him to forgive you for running from him. Accept Jesus if you have not yet, as your Savior. Oh, how he loves you so. there is SUCH freedom in Jesus.

As we just celebrated the wonder of Easter, it’s a beautiful way to end the month with this Foreigner song, on wanting to know true love. TRUE LOVE. God – he is our Maker. He knows you. He wants you in eternity – Heaven – oh, it’s gonna be so beautiful to live there one day. It can be your destination too.

I’m confident, I will see you on the other side one day. Rejoice. And thank you, Foreigner, for singing this song. Reminding me of God’s faithful and pure love.

I’m attaching a list of scriptures you can journal, write out in a notebook, as you walk this journey of LOVE.

Enjoy this Journal page…. let me know how this has blessed your life by leaving a comment!

I want to know what Love IS… Scripture journaling

Hope for today

God comforts us, and he binds the brokenness within our minds and hearts; it is by his GRACE that he fills us up, redeems us and offers a HOPE that nothing nor nobody can offer.

We are in precedented times, that we have not seen before, and some things that have gotten worse over time.

We have the threat of a virus that is killing people. But this is nothing new under the sun. Viruses and sickness became part of life when Adam and Eve disobeyed. People die every day. Why are so many people going into the depths of despair, as if we have never seen dying as a part of life? But we can’t avoid LIVING before we die. People die at all ages any more. There is NO guarantee for tomorrow. Life is a journey to the path of death and grieving. BUT WE LIVE like there is no tomorrow.

Please hear me, we need to LIVE – even when we are limited to what we can do by rules implemented upon us. It’s OKAY~ let’s LIVE, breath and have our being. I want JOY in abundance.

Mind you, I am in no way making light of this. But to shut down the economy is an astronomical situation. We are finally coming out of a recession, to very possibly plummet into something deeper – will businesses have to end up closing because of lack of sales? The food and medical industry will survive. We will always need food and doctors. Bigger than those, we NEED Jesus.

Jesus is the ONLY HOPE we can rely on.

God’s promises are YES and AMEN. we must be in the Word. the Bible is our best guide. Prayers to heaven, and then to listen and hear what God is saying to us is key.

Let’s release fear!

Gain peace.

Rise up in HOPE

Let the issues in this world happen as they may, we cannot stop the things that happen, but we have the power to pray and ask God to redeem the situations happening, which will let the world see HIS GOODNESS in the land of the living!!!

Let’s kick the devil back to hell where he belongs. He has NO power over you and I. rebuke his ploys and sickness, worry and dismay. Those are all enemies to our soul.

Here are some scriptures for you to write in your journal today, be assured of HIS hope which is in you when you rely on HIM.

Job 5:11

Job 6:11

Job 14:7

Psalm 31:24

1 Chronicles 29: 10-20

Job 21 – is Job’s discourse to the wicked,

God is doing something big and powerful in this day and time. We are not living in havoc. We are living in the power of God though Jesus Christ. God has set us apart as Christians. We are being secluded to pray and be prepared for such a time as this, like in the days of Noah.

Luke 9:27, we will see the kingdom of God draw near, right here on Earth. (read the story of Noahs Arc).

Be OPEN and READY for now. Ask God what he wants YOU to do in this time.

Let’s pray: I call to this issue of sickness, viruses, hate, discontent and all concerns we have with jobs, income, the political arena, hatred and anything against God to be cast down and rebuked and diminished. in Jesus name.

Lord, YOU are in control. I am blessed to be a blessing. I have no lack, no sickness and I am victorious by the BLOOD of Jesus

Heal us, heal our land we are strong and courageous. Let us all share in the HOPE of YOUR love God. Amen

Family Ties – is it a love or hate relationship?

Florida beach, family,

Family Gatherings can bring a host of feelings when it comes to spending time together. We never asked to be born into the family we have. It just happens. God chooses us to be right smack in the middle of love, mercy, joy, and fun, or …… in reality, we are in the midst of dysfunctional cray-zay! A whole host of angry, jealousy, hurt, pain,  and suffering people who show up for dinner to present an unbalanced diet of raw emotions. Hurt people, hurt people. The cycle continues. Sometimes, people act aloof or pretentious, ignoring the pain – not sure which way is worse…. the silence of ignoring the elephant in the room or being open and unbalanced.

What’s a person to do? Ah, life. Choices. Love anyway. Real love – not faking it kind of love. Getting real and ooze that love, at all times.

During my childhood, and into my 20’s, I was hopeful that the “ugly”  issues that arose would resolve; people would choose love over hurt, pain, and misunderstandings; peaceful communication would win out every time…. but as years moved on, I began to lose hope in humanity as a whole. People seem to enjoy the choice of acting in hostility and insecurity, which often times continued without altering viewpoints and meeting halfway.  thought: If a person continues to lash out, they must enjoy the pain, otherwise, wouldn’t they just STOP the madness?

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So many moments with a broken heart, saddened by what I consider lack of integrity. Loss of real love and forgiveness.  The personal agenda, whether purposed or innocently subjected,  wouldn’t it be best to offer a peaceful moment to reconcile.  — God wants desires that we take our troubles to the foot of Jesus. Let him help us overcome ALL obstacles so we can live in peace with each other

Maturity, and letting go of pride are monumental in moving out from the muck and feelings of being out of control, and into the joy and peace that God gifts to us.

When my children were   2, 4 and 6 years old, life was moving forward. We had had our share of struggles, as all couples do, (life is never a bed of flowers; cactus comes up to surprise ya every now and then), but we worked through all things that came our way. Overall, things were well, our kids were healthy and strong, we were working and life was moving forward.

One morning, fairly early, about 8 am,  my husband, at work already, and there was a knock at the front door. I was still in my PJ’s, if I remember correctly, my kids may have had a day off and possibly been still asleep or in the basement playing… I don’t recall…I do remember it was quiet, as I wondered who in the world would be at my door that early? My heart was racing as I went to the window to see what car was outside. When I saw the little blue car on the street, I squinted quizzically and realized who it was. My cousin. I opened the door, confused wondering why he was there so early, as he lived a good distance away, and usually never showed up unannounced. My mind was racing, only thinking: who could be dead or in the hospital…. never imagining that his wife left him, and she temporarily took the kids, and only a few days to find somewhere to live. Wala Whalah ding dong….right? First thing in the morning. He was distraught. Upset to say the very least.  Of course, I hugged him, told him it would be ok, and I am sure I asked a few other questions, long gone from my memory at this point in time, and then invited him to come stay with us. After he left, I didn’t even concur with my husband if that was OK!?!? YIKES! Oofu mistake, right? 

Why do I tell this story?  Twofold reasoning. I immediately told him he could stay with us.  I acted on love.  Love never has to think twice. I sternly suggested he go empty the apartment, get whatever was left and then go get the kids, who were 3 and 9. I was relieved when I called my husband at work to update him with this “family drama”, and he, of course, said to me, he can come stay with us while he figures all this out. Phew. That worked out – love worked it all out. Love never ever fails!

With confidence as strong as a brick wall, I knew it was the RIGHT thing to do. We needed to be there for my cousin, he needed solid friendships to help him walk through this dark night….. together, with five kids under 9,  and three of them in potty training mode. That’s real folks! Work it out we did!

Secondly, my husband and I  could help. If for nothing else but to be a good support during this huge struggle in his life. Doesn’t everyyyyyyone do such things? (come to find out afterward,  the answer to that question is no. People do not let other people move in. I can go off on a tangent on that remark in itself. We’ll save that for another time).

People like to live behind closed doors. No one wants a witness that their life is not so pretty as presented when outside the walls of their safe haven. #liesfromtheenemy.   We all have troubles, we all make mistakes, we all deserve second and third chances.

Second, the reason this story is pertinent is God gave people to live this life out TOGETHER.

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Couples stick together through THICK and THIN. Whether life is a walk on the sweet sunny beach, or when it falls upon shaky ground, or hurricanes of junk come flying your way, you work it out. Life gets sticky and stinky – sometimes often!

So, when you say I DO – it is A LIFETIME of  YESES – No’s and everything in-between.

The tides come in and go out. Nighttime is the stronger tide, weather it out. In the morning the sun shines and clarity comes, you work -it -all -out.

Choose your spouse with wisdom, not a fling, not by looks or status quo. Look into the heart and eyes of that person. Get real honest with yourself and see the person you want to marry for what they truly are. Yes, people can change, but often times, pride gets in the way – down the path of arrogance and selfish desire. Relationships go both ways.

Realize as well, your marriage is bringing two families together, which are often times very different in the way they live, habits, ideals, and a host of other things.    Communicate and love each other – be with each other, because we have enough enemies in this world as it is. May our homes be one of love and grace.

Please understand nobody is exempt from being hurt or hurting others. We all fail. ALL of us. The quick resolve is that when we have Christ in our lives, we learn to be guided by His Word, (the Bible). His love covers all the sins we create. Grace, mercy, and love will make clear when we realize we have made mistakes. Forgive quick and love always!

*** side note: Abuse is never acceptable, so the sidenote to this story is if you are in an abusive relationship, seek help. No one should be a punching bag, nor verbally attacked for any reason. Seek your local hospital, county or village to find out who can help near you.


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This Easter, if you are a follower of Jesus and accepted him as your personal Savior, then you are a part of His Royal Family. THEE family – Born of and to God, for and with a PURPOSE. There is no greater love than that of Jesus.   Live in his wonderful love.

If you do not have Jesus in your life, please say this simple prayer, and you will live eternally in Heaven, and walk this earth with Jesus as your sweet guide as you walk and talk with him, learn his Words from the Bible, our guide to life, and blessings will be yours.

 –– Lord, thank you for salvation. Thank you for your willingness, Jesus, to go to the cross and die for my sins. I repent and want to live a good clean life, free from sin. Forgive me of my past sins, and help me as I walk in the days ahead, listening for your prompting when I do sin or want to sin, and I will be quick to leave that behind me. Thank you for forgiving me and loving me. In Your Name, Amen. 






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